Household Help: Tips to Talk to Your Children About Getting Help at Home
Most people need to get some household help at some point if they want to continue to live at home. Bringing it up with their adult children isn't always easy, especially if you are asking for their help. However, if you decide that you are struggling too much but you don't want to move, you are going to have to find a way to talk to your children about it.
Tips to Talk to Your Children About Household Help
Dreading this talk? You don't have to. Here are some tips to help.
1. Realize what type of help you need.
It is important to know what you want to say before you start talking. So take a good look at your lifestyle and figure out where you are struggling. Do you need someone to go to the grocery store for you every week or someone to mow your lawn? Do you need significantly more household help, like someone to come and stay with you during the day or even nights? Or do you need help to remember to take your medication or do you just need a companion?
While you are trying to figure out what you need, you also should think about who you want to help you. Could your adult children help around the house more or are they overwhelmed with their own families? Do you have a granddaughter who could come and stay with you after school for a few hours? Could your grandson mow the lawn and help outside? Do you need more care than your family can provide?
2. Come up with a plan of attack.
Instead of just throwing this on your family, you might want to have a plan. It might help to meet with a caregiving agency to see what they offer and what they can do for you. Talk to them about some of their services and prices so that you can show your children what is out there.
You don't want to force your children to help, out of obligation. If it is going to be too much, showing them that you have already come up with a plan may alleviate some of their concerns (and show them that you don't expect them to pick up the slack).
3. Bring a third party.
If you are worried about having a talk with your children, don't do it alone. Bring along a trusted family friend who could be partial and help lead the conversation along. You could also consider asking the agency to come along so that they can provide the necessary information to put your children at ease.
Though it can be scary to talk to your children, you need to find a way to bring it up so you can get the household help that you need to continue to live at home comfortably.
Make sure that you know what you need before you even start. You may even want to talk to an agency so that your children don't feel forced to help you, especially if you know that they can't take on anything else! Show them that you already have a plan and just want to share it with them before you get started.
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