When your grandchildren live far away, getting together for Grandparents Day is not always possible. You may be in different cities or even different states. That does not mean you have to miss out on spending time together. With a phone, tablet, or computer, you can still talk, see each other, and share an activity from home.
Make Time for a Real Video Call
Video calls have quietly become the closest thing to being in the same room. It can also give you more time together than a quick phone call. If you are still getting comfortable with video calls, AARP's guide to popular video chat platforms compares several options. If you already use FaceTime or Zoom, set aside a little more time than usual. Ask your grandchild's parents when the children are likely to be free and able to focus on the call.
You can make the call easier by setting up your device ahead of time. Place your phone or tablet on a stand or another stable surface. Sit somewhere with good lighting so your grandchild can see you clearly. It can also help to have an activity ready. Reading a book, playing a simple game, or showing each other something around the house gives you something to do together.
Plan Something to Do Together
You do not need an elaborate activity. A simple plan can make the call more enjoyable.
- Read the same book together: Send your grandchild a copy ahead of time or ask their parents to find one. Take turns reading pages or talk about the pictures.
- Make the same simple snack: Try sandwiches, ice cream sundaes, or another recipe that does not require much preparation. Talk while you make it and compare how everything turns out.
- Play games together: Try 20 Questions, drawing games, or a simple board game that works on camera. Older grandchildren may even enjoy teaching you how to play a favorite video game.
- Give them a look at your everyday life: Show them your garden, a favorite room, family photos, or something you have been working on. Ask them to show you something from their own home too.
Keep in Touch Between Calls
Grandparents Day does not have to be your only chance to connect. A regular phone call, text, photo, or video message can keep you involved in your grandchild's life. For younger grandchildren, consider sending a short handwritten letter or a photo. Write a few lines about what you have been doing and ask about something they enjoy.
Older grandchildren may prefer texts or short messages. Ask about a hobby, school activity, favorite team, or another interest. You can also create a routine. Maybe you have a Sunday phone call or a weekly video chat. Having a set time makes it easier for both of you to stay in touch.
Don’t Worry if Technology Feels Difficult
You do not need to know how to use every new device or app. Start with one option that works for you and your family. Ask your child or grandchild to walk you through the steps. Write the instructions down so you can refer to them the next time. Before your Grandparents Day call, give the app a try. A little practice can make the actual call much easier.
Stay Connected with Support From Senior Helpers
Living far from your grandchildren can make staying connected challenging. Sometimes, a little support with everyday tasks can make it easier to keep those connections going. Senior Helpers Redlands provides in-home support for older adults in Redlands, Loma Linda, Highland, San Bernardino, and Mentone. Contact us for more information.